Destination Weddings

A destination wedding is one which takes place outside of the area where you live. It does not require international travel or passports. It could be as close as a 2 hours drive or as far as the other side of the world. The possibilities are plenty.

But this post is not about where to travel for your wedding. We thought of, and researched, some of the things you probably never considered when planning a destination wedding.

Thanks to Dawn Mitchell for providing this photograph for this feature. Photograph by Erin McDevitt Photography.

Thanks to Dawn Mitchell for providing this photograph for this feature. Photograph by Erin McDevitt Photography.

  1. Travel to your destination ahead of time to meet with your hired professionals so you know what you are getting OR
  2. Have a local wedding planner handle the details and the planner can meet with the professionals on your behalf. 
  3. Take your photographer with you. This will make it easier for you to communicate with them after the wedding to select, order, and receive your photos. 
  4. Purchase items to personalize your wedding and ship them in advance. 
  5. Set the stage for your destination wedding by sending out a save the date 9 months-1 year in advance to get your guests excited
  6. Have a travel agent lock in the rates for you as far ahead of time as possible. This will allow you to inform your guests of the travel details and give them time to pay. 
  7. Tie the overall look of your wedding into your wedding invitation suite, and ensure that all relevant details regarding travel is in your suite's insert cards
  8. Pack an extra pair of wedding day shoes. One should be more comfortable than the other. 
  9. When you arrive at your destination, do some last minute shopping to fill welcome bags with local goodies. (This is something your wedding planner can do for you.)
Wedding invitation suite for a beach wedding custom designed by Creative Director Francesca Staffieri

Wedding invitation suite for a beach wedding custom designed by Creative Director Francesca Staffieri

BONUS: Write a welcome letter for your guests to thank them for traveling to celebrate your special day. Include a map of the area and an itinerary so they know when they need to be with you and when they have free time to explore. 

If you would like to meet with Chief Event Planner Randi Martin to help plan your Destination Wedding or Creative Director Francesca Staffieri to collaborate with you on your wedding designs/stationery, email us at info@trilogyeventdesign.com or call 800-941-2770.

Thanks to Dawn Mitchell for providing this beautiful photograph of her on her wedding day for this feature. Photograph by Erin McDevitt Photography.

Thanks to Dawn Mitchell for providing this beautiful photograph of her on her wedding day for this feature. Photograph by Erin McDevitt Photography.

Wish Upon a Wedding…

Wish Upon a Wedding has been garnering a lot of media attention recently both locally in the Greater Philadelphia Area as well as Nationally. Launched in January 2010, Wish Upon a Wedding was "the world's first nonprofit wish granting organization providing weddings and vow renewals for couples facing terminal illness and serious life-changing circumstances regardless of sexual orientation." The Philadelphia Chapter, of which Chief Event Planner Randi Martin was a member of the founding board, launched in January 2011 to a community of wedding and event professionals eager to help couples facing these significant challenges. 

Stacey and Jared's Wedding Wish was granted by Wish Upon a Wedding Philadelphia in July 2012. Photograph by Lindsay Docherty Photography

Since the launch, Wish Upon a Wedding Philadelphia has granted over 8 wedding wishes, with the most recent being Melanie and Pierre on August 7, 2014 at the Hotel Monaco. Trilogy Event Design Chief Event Planner Randi Martin took over the position of President of the Philadelphia Chapter at the end of 2013, which General Manager Michael Magro Jr assumed her former position of Vice-President. Under Randi's leadership, the volunteer-board has granted three wedding wishes this year, more than any other national chapter, and has held or participated in multiple outreach activities to improve awareness of the organization. 

If you or someone you know can benefit from Wish Upon a Wedding's charitable services, please visit wishuponawedding.org to apply for a wedding wish. If you are a wedding or event professional looking to apply to become a wish granter to donate your product or services, please visit the same website to find out "How to Help". Any local media inquiries regarding Wish Upon a Wedding should be directed to Randi Martin at philadelphiapresident@wishuponawedding.org. Otherwise, for all other readers, if you would like to speak with Randi please contact her at 800-941-2770 or email randi@trilogyeventdesign.com.

Having a Wedding Planner Versus a Venue Coordinator

Chief Event Planner Randi Martin pinning the boutonniere on the groom. Photo by Daniel Bostwick Photography

Chief Event Planner Randi Martin pinning the boutonniere on the groom. Photo by Daniel Bostwick Photography

Of course you need the coordinator provided by your wedding venue (ceremony and/or reception) because they are most familiar with the way things are usually run at your chosen location. However, there is a difference between this person and an outside wedding planner that you would hire to be your liaison. 

The venue coordinator is responsible for what happens inside their 4 walls. They are responsible for making sure you get the items you paid them to provide. They make sure the caterer provides the right food at the right time. They make sure the bar is stocked properly. They make sure the right number of tables and chairs are provided for your guests to be seated. The venue coordinator often leaves after the meal is served and leaves the rest of the event in the hands of the banquet captain. 

Your privately contracted wedding planner may help you create the details for your wedding (venue, professionals, colors and/or theme, stationery, flowers, etc.) They will start working before you get to the ceremony and after you leave the reception. They will troubleshoot problems as they arise so you don't have to interrupt your moments with friends and family. 
 

Your Trilogy Event Design Wedding Planner will ensure that your vision comes to life the way you planned. Photo by Bostwick Photography.

Your Trilogy Event Design Wedding Planner will ensure that your vision comes to life the way you planned. Photo by Bostwick Photography.

Real examples from our experience... Your photography services end before the reception is over so the timeline has to be adjusted accordingly... the florist delivered the wrong corsages for the mothers of the bride and groom... half of the specialty linens ordered didn't arrive at the venue... the limo driver got lost on the way to the church (with the bride inside). These are issues that the venue coordinator either would not know about or would not be able to help you with. 

There are many other things that a wedding planner that you personally select and hire will do for you, but we hope you now have a better understanding of the differences. If your venue coordinator tells you that you won't need a wedding planner because they do it all, just ask them what they do to help you before you arrive at the facility. 

Broken Glass on Your Wedding Day

by Mitzvoth Consultant, Julie Herskovitz

Image courtesy of Neely and Leon Rosen from their Wedding Day, Nov. 2, 2008

Image courtesy of Neely and Leon Rosen from their Wedding Day, Nov. 2, 2008

Most everyone is familiar with this scene:

The Ceremony is over, the groom places a glass object beneath his feet, he stomps on it, and everyone yells “Mazel Tov!”

Ceremony over!

But is this necessary?

Contrary to popular belief, breaking a glass is not a mandatory part of a wedding ceremony.

There are several explanations as to why we break glass on our wedding day:

1.     According to Chabad.org,

We do this custom to commemorate the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem some 2,000 years ago. One groom asked: “What does a destroyed building have to do with my wedding?”

Answer: The destruction of the Holy Temple has extreme personal relevance. It happened to you. It is true that shattering the glass primarily commemorates the fall of Jerusalem; however, it is also a reminder of another cataclysmic shattering – that of your very own temple, your soul.

Long story short, we are created as one being, one shared soul. When we enter the earth, G-d shatters us into two pieces. We must then spend our lives maturing alone and searching for our soul-mate, our b’shert. The breaking of the glass symbolizes the destruction of the temple, but also, the need to be broken before we can truly be united.

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2.     Another explanation is:

The Talmud mentions two stories of rabbis who, upon seeing that their son's wedding celebration was getting out of hand, broke a vessel - in the second case a glass - to calm things down. And so we break the glass as a reminder to stay steadfast even in times of joy.

3.     Another explanation come back to the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem.

It is a reminder that despite the joy, Jews still mourn the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem. However, some people are concerned that this meaning has gotten lost. As a moment to be solemn has been overcome with shouts of joy.

4.     And one final reason I have heard:

The loud noise of the breaking glass is meant to keep the evil spirits out of your lives.

Despite which reason you and your family believe in, fact is, you do NOT need to break the glass. We do it more often as people have come to expect this as the way to mark the end of the ceremony. So, it is your choice!

What to break:

1.     You can purchase a fancy pants wine glass in coordinating colors to match your wedding. You can also buy a mezuzah that has empty space to save the broken glass and display it. Many couples have done this in recent years. Some couples find it odd to save broken glass that is meant to commemorate something sad. Ultimately, what makes you happy?

2.     A Light blub. Yes, a light bulb. As a matter of fact, that is what my husband and I used. It is thinner and easier to break and it makes a louder-popping sound.

3.     You can buy a cheap wine glass if you want something fancier than a light bulb but don’t plan to keep the shards.

Whatever you decide, make the decision together, as future husband and wife. Because that is truly what the day and custom is about. 

Planning a Jewish Wedding? Or do you have a Mitzvah coming up? Call 800-941-2770 or email julie@trilogyeventdesign.com to schedule a free consultation with Mitzvoth Consultant, Julie Herskovitz!

It's Summer, Let's Celebrate!

We've been having a busy summer thus far in the Trilogy Event Design studio after recuperating from the planning, design, and coordination of June's Knot Magazine Market Mixer. 

The Knot Magazine Market Mixer was held at Moulin at Sherman Mills

The Knot Magazine Market Mixer was held at Moulin at Sherman Mills

Two days after the event, and Chief Event Planner Randi Martin and her team were back to work for the fabulous wedding of Caitlyn and Drew at Blue Bell Country Club...

Caitlyn & Drew's wedding cake at Blue Bell Country Club

Caitlyn & Drew's wedding cake at Blue Bell Country Club

That was a busy weekend for weddings as one of our fantastically fun design couples — Dina &  Louie — tied the knot at St. George's Cathedral and partied the night away at Adelphia in New Jersey! Creative Director Francesca Staffieri worked with this amazing couple to create a classic and elegant wedding invitation suite and day-of stationery that the couple absolutely adored...

Custom designed by Creative Director Francesca Staffieri

Custom designed by Creative Director Francesca Staffieri

As we moved from June to July and everyone was celebrating the Fourth of July, Trilogy Event Design couple Dawn & Will were getting ready for their beach wedding and subsequent reception at The Merion Tribute House!

Custom designed by Creative Director Francesca Staffieri

Custom designed by Creative Director Francesca Staffieri

Meanwhile, while Randi & Francesca were busy with new consultations and delivering more designs for unique wedding stationery, we had one more wedding to close the month: Alyssa & Soren's big day at Aldie Mansion!

Alyssa and her father walking down the aisle during the ceremony at Aldie Mansion

Alyssa and her father walking down the aisle during the ceremony at Aldie Mansion

Aldie Mansion, located in Doylestown, PA, is one of our favorite venues! Randi has managed several weddings at this beautiful property, including one last September. 

Florals by Buttercup. Venue: Aldie Mansion. 

Florals by Buttercup. Venue: Aldie Mansion. 

As we look toward the end of the summer, we have more designs to deliver, a fabulous Sweet 16 party to design and provide decor for at Talamore Country Club, and a rustic-chic wedding that we are designing, planning, and coordinating for a wonderful couple — Ranjana & Tim — at Sand Castle Winery! And, we've started planning a special event for wedding professionals this fall at Knowlton Mansion.

We wish you all a great end of summer! If you would like to set up a consultation for your wedding, Mitzvah, or other event, please contact us at 800-941-2770 or email info@trilogyeventdesign.com to schedule your free consultation.

From left to right: Chief Event Planner Randi Martin, General Manager Michael Magro Jr, and Creative Director Francesca Staffieri

From left to right: Chief Event Planner Randi Martin, General Manager Michael Magro Jr, and Creative Director Francesca Staffieri

Real Wedding: Dawn & Will

We had the pleasure to work with Dawn and Will this past year on the wedding stationery for their July 2014 wedding. With the wedding itself taking place on the beach, they had booked the Merion Tribute House for their wedding reception which would be held a week later. For their Save the Date, Dawn and Will wanted to use a photograph of themselves (or at least, their lower halves) to help spread the news...

Save the Date designed by Creative Director Francesca Staffieri

Trilogy Event Design Creative Director Francesca Staffieri designed the save the date using the font that would be used on their wedding invitation suite to give a hint of what was to come. She set the type so that it would appear as if the words were written across the bricks. 

For their wedding invitation suite, Dawn and Will wanted a rustic look and chose a PC-100 Kraft paper. For the design elements, they fell in love with one of Francesca's custom-designs: a wine-stained invitation suite.

Designed by Creative Director Francesca Staffieri

The look of the paper and the wine stains were exactly what Dawn and Will had been envisioning for their stationery, with a reply card and business card sized wedding website card completing the suite.

Designed by Creative Director Francesca Staffieri

We had a fantastic time working with Dawn and Will and wish them both all of the best on their new life together!

If you would like to meet with Francesca for a custom-designed wedding stationery, or would like to take a look at some of her previous work, give us a call at 800-941-2770 or email us at info@trilogyeventdesign.com to schedule a free consultation.